In a brave revelation, a woman, identified as [@Mizpah_Ms](https://twitter.com/Mizpah_Ms), shared her astonishing story of a two-minute arranged marriage to a man she later discovered was gay.
The tale began with an elderly couple approaching her, convinced that she was the ideal match for their son, returning from overseas. Feeling societal pressure to marry, she agreed to the arrangement, enticed by the notion of marrying a good, down-to-earth man.
As the wedding day approached, the woman noticed a shift in the vibe between them. Nevertheless, they proceeded with a swift church wedding, keeping it discreet. The first night together, the husband's unexpected reaction to her lingerie hinted at an underlying issue.
The shocking revelation came when she caught him watching gay pornography. Despite her attempts to address the situation, he remained unapologetic and dismissive. Feeling betrayed, she decided to end the marriage after three months.
Upon contacting her husband's parents, she discovered they were aware of their son's true identity and believed that finding him a wife would somehow "fix" him. Despite the challenges, the woman found strength in moving forward and building her own path to happiness.
Even after the marriage ended, she faced additional surprises—her ex-husband gained fame on Instagram, and his parents, staunch Christians, left the church. The woman's journey through this unexpected experience serves as a testament to resilience and the pursuit of personal happiness.
In her own words:
“My 2 minutes arranged marriage to a gay man. Well, in the year 2019, I was turning 30 and the only unmarried woman at that age in my church. So this elderly couple approached me and they told me about their son overseas who was coming back to Johannesburg in a few months' time."
“Me being under pressure of settling, I actually ended up liking the idea of marrying this good man. They gave me his contacts later I texted him. He was already expecting my text as he had already been told about this prayerful warrior. A seemingly perfect match for him, a good, down-to-earth man."
“Surprisingly our first conversation was great and we just kept on talking as if we’ve known each other forever."
“We arranged to get married as soon as he gets back, we both wanted something very small, so a church wedding was ideal. It was not going to be announced only our pastor and parents knew about it. He finally came back, we met and the vibe kinda changed but there was no going back. We got married at a church service on a Sunday a very quick exchange of vows situation, cake cutting boom it was done."
“We drove to his parents' house to spend our first night together as husband and wife. We were going to get our own in a few weeks' time. I took a shower and changed into my sexy lingerie, ndaya erumin with that slow walk when you know you’re sexy and all."
“Walked towards my man, wandijonga ntjoo ngamehlo, it was like he was seeing a ghost. Go. I looked behind me."
“Zange lavuka that night and days after, even thought he needed to consult until I walked on him eshaya indIwamu to gay porn. When I tried to make a scene out of that he said 'stop being dramatic and close that door, Kanti Wena mzala all along ubungaboni ukuthi zikipani?' At that moment I was numb from seeing that to being called mzala and asked that question."
“I went and sat beside him, he said a lot but he was unapologetic about what just happened. All I could hear was his parents should never find out. I called his mom she came with her husband as if they knew something was up. I said 'Lo sis bhuti wenu has something to say, for now, I’m going back home to find myself a real husband.' His mom’s response made me realise they knew about this and thought finding him a wife Would 'fix him' you know how stereotyped Christians are."
“I stayed married to him for 3 months afterward. Went to church together did a lot as a normal couple will do except for sex. Foolish I know. I was still trying to find a way to deal with people after umshado we 2 seconds. My ex is now a famous baddie on IG, his parents left church they thought I’ll go around telling people. They were those typical staunch Christians. I hear their relationship is not that good, he since left his parent’s home.”
See the post below:
My 2 minutes arranged marriage to a gay man😭😭
Well year 2019, I was turning 30 and the only unmarried woman at that age in my church. So this elderly couple approached me and they told me about their son overseas who was coming back to Johannesburg in a few months' time
— Mizpah (@Mizpah_Ms) November 20, 2023
