A lady has sparked conversation online after advising women to always tell men they are virgins, arguing that men, though not all, tend to be hypocritical and easily impressed by such claims. Her advice has gone viral on social media, where users debated her controversial approach to relationships and intimacy.
In a video that quickly circulated on platforms like Twitter and Instagram, the lady explained why women should start telling men they are virgins even if they are not, and she offered guidance on how to handle the situation if the truth comes out later. The video has been both criticized and praised for its boldness, sparking widespread discussion among young women about dating strategies and perceived male behavior.
She began her message by addressing women directly, saying, “Normalize telling these men you are a virgin. This is for the girls, so if you are not a girl, you should scroll past this advice.” The statement was meant to empower women in the early stages of dating and encourage them to take control of how they present themselves to potential partners.
According to her, during the talking stage of a relationship, a woman should confidently claim she is a virgin, explaining that she has kept her body holy. She emphasized that this approach can also encourage men to spend money and show investment in the relationship, suggesting that perceived virginity can be used as leverage for respect and care from a partner.
The lady further elaborated that after marriage, during intimacy, women should employ “gripping techniques” to enhance the experience for both partners, implying that the supposed virginity claim could be part of maintaining attraction and excitement in the relationship. She also shared detailed instructions on how to navigate situations if the man discovers she is not actually a virgin, highlighting the importance of remorse and storytelling to ease potential tension.
She advised women to first show genuine remorse to calm their partner, then explain creatively: “You can be like, baby, I tried to keep it. I kept it for years but it fell. I lost it, not that somebody came inside of me, I lost it.” She elaborated further: “Baby, I tried to keep it. I wanted to keep it for the one I loved, but it fell. I lost it, I went back to carry it, but I did not see it and I was scared to tell you.” According to her, this approach can soften the man’s reaction and maintain the relationship’s stability.
Ending her video, the lady suggested that if a man truly loves the woman, he will help her “find the lost virginity,” reinforcing her belief that trust and care in a relationship can overcome potential disappointments or misunderstandings about past experiences. She concluded by urging women to adopt these strategies as a way to navigate dating in a world where trust, perception, and appearances can significantly influence relational dynamics.
The video has since generated mixed reactions online. Some praised her advice for empowering women to take control of their sexual narrative, while others criticized it as deceptive and potentially manipulative. Nevertheless, the video continues to circulate widely, prompting discussions on honesty, dating strategies, and the societal pressures surrounding virginity and female sexuality.
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Ladies, normalize telling any man you want to marry that you’re a v€gin — a lady advises her fellow girls 👀 pic.twitter.com/OZqvjkZRMq
— TENIOLA (@Teeniiola) September 16, 2025