Dr. Obianma Onyia, a 52-year-old Nigerian doctor and mother of three, has sparked online discussions by criticizing the practice of wives seeking permission from their husbands to visit their parents.
The doctor boldly asserts that a man insisting on such permissions has failed as the leader of his home.
Directing her message to prospective sons-in-law, Dr. Onyia warns that if her daughters are required to seek permission from their husbands to visit her, she will personally intervene and remove them from such marriages.
She dismisses prevailing master-servant relationships that she believes are plaguing marriages in Nigeria.
Dr. Onyia emphasizes that neither she nor her husband ever required their daughters to seek permission, rejecting the notion that marriage should be based on a hierarchical structure.
In her words;
“Let me tell you now, I have never sought permission. My hubby and I didn’t raise them to fit into the prevailing master-servant relationships that apparently plague marriages in Nigeria today (yes coz this whole flawed concept is new to me).
“But I paid bride price” - you say.
“Bride price is merely a token of commitment and not a symbol of ownership.
“You must be stark raving mad if you think that your miserable 10,000 (or even 100k) is enough to buy a full grown human being whose parents used several hundred millions to train… or does it cover for all the other sacrifices made that money can’t buy???
“You should aim at being partners who discuss issues amicably as a team and build a strong formidable relationship and a great family that can stand the test of time.
“That should be your aim.
“And not how to enslave and emotionally abuse someone’s innocent precious child.
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