Media personality Destiny Amaka has spoken out about the struggles she and other “intentional women” face in today’s dating scene, painting a vivid picture of how modern relationships have become more transactional and less meaningful.
Sharing her thoughts via her Instagram story, Destiny voiced her frustration at how some men approach dating, pointing out that many now believe that simply taking a woman out automatically entitles them to intimacy. According to her, this mindset not only demeans women but also erodes the possibility of genuine connection.
She explained that being pressured to share intimacy too early prevents the natural growth of chemistry and bonding between two people. For her, true dating should be about building connections through respect, kindness, and shared values, not about immediate gratification.
Dating has become transactional
Destiny lamented that many men have lost the simple art of being gentlemen, recalling instances where men assumed a kiss—or even more—was the “least” a woman owed them for spending time together. “Dating isn’t supposed to feel like a transaction,” she wrote passionately.
She highlighted that for women like her, who are intentional about relationships, it is increasingly difficult to find men who embody qualities such as emotional intelligence, mutual respect, integrity, and genuine support. According to her, these values have become rare in modern dating culture.
“The streets are rough for us intentional women oh!” she exclaimed, summing up the frustrations of many women navigating today’s love landscape.
Respect matters most
In further clarifying her stance, Destiny explained that she never expects anything from a man that she cannot provide for herself. She emphasized that women should not be judged or reduced to sexual expectations, noting that she can easily detect when a man is only interested in sex, which she finds completely “off-putting.”
She advised men to treat women with the same respect they would give to their mothers and sisters, reminding them that good relationships can only thrive on dignity and mutual understanding. “You can’t say you want a good woman but expect her to be loose, it doesn’t blend. If that’s what you’re after, there are places for that,” she added firmly.
Mixed reactions from social media
raypwol replied: “Some will buy small fish and a bottle of beer for you, next thing let’s go and lodge 😂😂😂.”
sarahopeyemitv noted: “I’m glad someone is speaking up. She spoke my mind.”
leeroygramofficial penned: “This one is different! She is talking as an intentional woman and partner, not a liability. And she’s very correct 💯 good women deserve good men! Let rubbish discover themselves!”
therealdonwilly said: “It’s harder to find a good woman… no one easy….”
chidozieduru wrote: “The situation is same on both sides. Same way e hard una to find good man, same way e hard us to find good woman… all of us will suffer 😂.”
taritatosky opined: “Na true say dating don become like transaction for some people. Plenty men dey expect physical intimacy too quick, without even knowing di person. Make we no forget say respect and genuine interest dey important for building meaningful relationships. Women deserve to be treated with dignity and respect, no matter di circumstances.”