In a thought-provoking post on the X platform, social media influencer @Bongoideas made a compelling argument against the perceived benefits of marriage for men, drawing parallels with the life struggles of the late Nollywood actor, Mr Ibu. Mr Ibu, who sadly passed away at the age of 62 on March 2nd, succumbed to a cardiac arrest after battling elevated blood pressure following an amputation surgery.
According to @Bongoideas, Mr Ibu's life journey served as a stark illustration of the purported pitfalls of marriage. He highlighted the actor's tumultuous marital experiences, including a first divorce where his savings were taken away, and subsequent dramas between his second wife and adopted daughter over money and properties. This, coupled with Mr Ibu's battle with diabetes, blood clotting, and dead blood vessels in his leg, led @Bongoideas to assert that marriage is a "profitless investment" for men.
In a detailed breakdown of Mr Ibu's challenges before his demise, @Bongoideas listed instances such as his daughter squandering funds meant for his surgery, selling almost all his properties, and his wife allegedly requesting an iPhone 15 while he was on the brink of death. The influencer concluded that Mr Ibu's legacy was ruined, painting a grim picture of a man abandoned with no wife, no properties, no money, and no legs, asserting, "Marriage is a loss to every man!"
However, a user countered this narrative by citing the enduring marriage of veteran actor Olu Jacobs, whose wife stood by him during his battle with dementia. Undeterred, @Bongoideas maintained his stance, suggesting that Jacobs' wife stayed because the gains she would make in the end would outweigh any losses, claiming, "That’s how all women think."
Reactions as influencer belittles marriage and life of Mr Ibu as a man
Ovoh_of_Lagos said: “Who u marry determines how much life you have left.”
zakisolja stated: “I disagree. If you marry right. It’s a blessing. Marriage has made some men with nothing become somebody. Don’t blame the beautiful thing God has created because someone made a wrong choice.”
Ekweanuaobiagel penned: “Marriage was not a loss to my dad; my mum stayed with him in thick and thin and took proper care of him when he was sick. I am sure my dad died a happy man because he has got the best wife then, and that's how I intend to stand strong with my hubby, marry a Godly partner.”
vian337 wrote: “Mr Ibu’s case is pathetic, but I don’t agree that marriage is a loss to every man. In some cases, the reverse is the case. May we not come across destructive spouses. A man/woman can never say they are lucky until they are married. A wrong marriage will pause and destroy everything you have built and ruin your life beyond redemption. May we not make marital mistakes in life. Amen.”