A Nigerian lady has sparked a heated debate online after asserting that men who neither drink alcohol nor smoke are often womanizers, igniting discussions about lifestyle choices, morality, and modern relationships.
Controversial perspective on men’s habits
In her view, men frequently link enjoyment and relaxation to drinking or smoking. Therefore, when a man abstains from both, she claims, his primary source of pleasure tends to shift toward women. She emphasized that her opinion is observational rather than prescriptive, acknowledging that not all men fit this pattern but insisting that abstaining completely from social indulgences might indicate a preoccupation with women.
She explained, “I’m not saying men must drink or smoke excessively, but a man should at least indulge in wine or champagne occasionally. Those who don’t have any alternative outlets often find excitement through women.”
The statement rapidly went viral across social media, sparking mixed reactions from both men and women, with some dismissing her claim as an overgeneralization, while others shared anecdotal evidence that seemed to support her perspective.
Men respond to the claim
Many men quickly pushed back against the assertion, arguing that it unfairly stereotypes men based on lifestyle choices. Social media users shared personal examples to demonstrate that abstaining from alcohol and smoking does not inherently indicate womanizing tendencies.
One man noted that he neither drinks nor smokes and maintains a committed, monogamous relationship. Another shared that he avoids both vices entirely and instead finds satisfaction in his career and personal hobbies, underscoring that fulfillment comes in many forms.
Critics of the lady’s statement argued that framing women as a source of indulgence or vice is inherently problematic. They maintained that men’s self-discipline, interests, and moral compass cannot be simplified into a stereotype based on whether they consume alcohol or smoke. Conversely, some admitted that they had observed instances where her claim held true, suggesting that while controversial, the perspective might apply in certain individual cases.
Social media reactions
The viral post attracted hundreds of replies and discussions from Nigerians weighing in from different perspectives. Reactions ranged from outright rejection to reluctant agreement, reflecting the diversity of opinions on men’s habits and morality.
Chiukwujjoke commented: “Big lie… I don’t smoke, I don’t drink alcohol, and I’m not a womanizer.”
O. Han responded: “My husband does none of those things, so sis stfu.”
Jesse added: “I don’t do any of that. I don’t even watch football. My enjoyment comes from watching my trades play out.”
TegaEbi wrote: “The last minute of this video shows how women settle for less in some situations.”
BigKruz dismissed it as: “Lol it’s a lie.”
vee_talks2 agreed: “I agree oo, some men are like that.”
The conversation opened broader debates on double standards in relationships, social expectations, and how lifestyle choices influence perceptions of morality. While some found the claim laughable, others argued it offered insight into human behavior and the assumptions society makes about men and women.
The video continues to trend on multiple platforms as viewers dissect and debate the implications of the lady’s assertion, prompting discussions about trust, dating norms, and gender stereotypes in Nigeria and beyond.
Watch the video below…
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— Dami’ Adenuga (@DAMIADENUGA) September 19, 2025