A Nigerian lady has ignited a heated online debate after openly criticising a bride who allegedly requested her bridesmaids to contribute money for a hotel suite just days before the wedding ceremony. The incident has raised questions about the financial expectations placed on friends and family members during weddings, highlighting the hidden costs often associated with participating in such events.
Bridesmaid speaks out
In a now-viral video clip circulating on social media, the bridesmaid voiced her frustration over what she described as an “unnecessary financial demand.” She revealed that she and other bridesmaids had already spent significantly on various wedding-related expenses including aso-ebi, heels, bags, gifts, transportation, and even mint notes for spraying at the event. Despite these contributions, she expressed disappointment at the bride’s request for additional funds to secure a luxurious hotel suite for photo opportunities, arguing that such pressures are unfair and insensitive to the financial realities of guests.
The bridesmaid emphasised that weddings should be planned within the limits of the bride and groom’s budget and that expecting friends to shoulder extra costs crosses the line of consideration and respect.
The cost of friendship at weddings
She explained that being part of a wedding party often comes with numerous hidden costs that are usually borne by the bridesmaids or groomsmen. From outfits to travel expenses, participants frequently absorb a significant portion of the financial burden while celebrating the couple’s special day. The bridesmaid noted that, after the festivities, the bride moves into her married life while her friends return to their normal routines, sometimes left to recover financially from the demands placed upon them.
Her message resonated with many online users: weddings should be conducted within one’s financial means, and it is unreasonable to expect guests or bridesmaids to fund luxuries that are not within the bride’s or groom’s budget. She urged couples to be considerate and avoid turning their wedding into a financial strain on loved ones.
Social media reactions
THE_CRAFT3 commented: “Most people are just insensitive when it comes to their wedding plans. You way be friend or relative, them go bill you like say na you wan marry.”[/p>
king_audacity wrote: “People now use other people to raise funds for their wedding expenses. It’s sad but true.”[/p>
Cletuzs added: “That’s why I always recommend getting married quietly without involving too many people. No need to stress friends or relatives financially.”[/p>
kenzy_jam commented: “Women these days always like unnecessary pressure. Weddings should be joyful, not stressful.”[/p>
BXbuster shared: “It’s very simple, if your wedding becomes a burden to me, I will respectfully ask for your account details… I will just wire you 50k to 100k with congratulations… we are still good.”[/p>
hispri@rity added: “Abeg let’s hear word, watching the video is making me dizzy. Were you forced? From the beginning you could have opted out.”[/p>
Many social media users sympathised with the bridesmaid, echoing concerns about the rising trend of extravagant weddings and the financial burden placed on attendees. The video has sparked widespread conversations about the importance of budgeting and setting realistic expectations for wedding celebrations, particularly regarding luxury add-ons like premium hotel suites.
Some viewers noted that weddings should focus on celebrating love and commitment rather than showcasing wealth or impressing others, reminding couples to prioritise meaningful experiences over extravagant spending.
Video highlights the controversy
In the viral clip, the bridesmaid passionately addressed the bride, questioning: “After all the money I spent to sew clothes, buy gifts and other things for your wedding, you still have the guts to ask your bridesmaids to contribute money for a hotel suite? Why not go for the one you can afford?” Her pointed statement captured the attention of thousands online, with users sharing their opinions and debating the etiquette of wedding financial expectations.
Watch the video below…
“After all the money I spent to sew clothes, buy gifts and other things for your wedding, you still have the guts to ask your bridesmaids to contribute money for a hotel suite? Why not go for the one you can afford?”👀[/p>
–Lady reacts after the bride asked her bridesmaids to… pic.twitter.com/BcSUCQqfVJ[/p>
— CHUKS 🍥 (@ChuksEricE) September 22, 2025