Nollywood actress and director, Omoni Oboli, has opened up about her decision to refrain from meddling in her son’s marriage, emphasizing her respect for her daughter-in-law’s independence even when she has concerns. In her recent appearance on the Dear Ife podcast hosted by Ifedayo Agoro, the mother of three explained her thoughtful approach to maintaining boundaries while supporting her son and daughter-in-law.
During the discussion, Oboli shared insights into the importance of understanding and empathy in family dynamics, particularly when it comes to the relationships her children build. She mentioned that she often places herself in her daughter-in-law's position, rather than only viewing situations from her perspective. This mindset allows her to foster a more supportive environment for her son and his wife.
Reflecting on her own experiences, Oboli noted that she got married at a young age—just 21 years old, which is the same age her daughter-in-law was when she married her son. This similarity in their ages has provided Oboli with a unique perspective; she recognizes the strong-willed nature of young brides and understands that her daughter-in-law likely prefers not to feel controlled or judged by her in-laws.
The seasoned actress stressed the importance of healthy communication within families. She highlighted how crucial it is for sons to have open lines of communication with their mothers regarding their wives. Oboli emphasized that if a son cannot approach his mother to discuss his wife’s preferences or concerns, it indicates a lack of healthy boundaries and communication within the family dynamic.
“There’s been a few times when my son has come to meet me to say, ‘Mum, Marelle does not like that,’ and I have to catch myself back and say, ‘Oh, I didn’t mean it that way.’ And it’s okay. So, the fact that your child cannot come to you to say ‘my wife doesn’t like this,’ that’s a problem in itself,” she stated, underlining the necessity of respectful family interactions.
Furthermore, Oboli shared her belief that it is essential for family members to acknowledge that a marriage represents the formation of a new family unit. While they will always be part of their original family, she noted that the couple now has their own lives to build together. “I think, first things first, people need to understand and realize that this is now another family. Yes, they are still a part of your family, but they now have their own family,” she opined, advocating for a balance between family support and individual autonomy.
Watch the full video below to hear more about her thoughts on marriage, family dynamics, and the importance of respect and communication in relationships.